How to Manage Frustration with Your Partner in a Relationship
Individuals that want to break up as quickly as they see their companion’s flaws or really feel a little dissatisfied with them are basically kids with internal trauma that can’t grow up.
As I’ve said before, individuals with internal spaces have a tendency to glorify their companions early in a partnership , hoping they’ll load their voids. However as the connection strengthens, once both people drop their masks and expose their real selves, your idealization is bound to smash. This can make you feel those bad childhood sensations again, regressing into that hurt kid, ending up being dissatisfied, angry, and then wanting to break up.
To put it much more simply, all your discontentment with your companion might not be because they’re in fact that poor. It’s just that, as an immature “kid,” you can’t accept your perfects being broken. When your demands aren’t satisfied, you resort to your most primal urges to assault, like tossing a tantrum or endangering to break up to express your internal discomfort. In psychology, this is a timeless sign of not dividing self from other.
Early attachment theory says that every child needs to finish a splitting up of self from other by age 3. You start to …